Ever seen that show? Well I'm going to put something out there and let you guys decide what is right and what isn't...K?


I came home Sunday night from my mom's house to find my 6 year old crying. I ask what is wrong. Apparently Nonna (my husband's mom) told him he had to eat what she fixed or nothing at all. She had made baked salmon and schezuan greenbeans? I made him a 2 minute hot pocket. She took his plate and threw it in the sink with a loud clang. She is mad and has not talked to me in 5 days. She feels she deserves an apology. I feel that he is my son and should not have to eat something he doesn't like. I wouldn't eat that stuff. I don't eat fish period.

When granddaddy makes dinner that he knows the kids won't like he always tosses in a couple chicken nuggets or something. When I make dinner, I make stuff I know everyone will eat. I mean if it had been hotdogs or nuggets or something then yes, I would have made him eat it because he likes those things. I don't make him something else just because he doesn't feel like eating what's fixed. It's only when it's something that I don't blame him for not liking (Hope I explain that right)

Background: When I was growing up, my brother and I were never forced to eat stuff we didn't like. Matter of fact, my mom never tried to make stuff she knew we wouldn't like, hence no battles over food. My MIL on the other hand had to eat whatever was put in front of her.

So here's the question...Who's right? Does she deserve an apology? How do we resolve this so it doesn't happen again?



YOU BE THE JUDGE!

Dear Nursepower! I think you right, it is soo wrong to push someone to eat what they
Don’t like or not used to eat, specially the little ones!
But you have to make peace with your Husband’s Mom - you don’t need this
Tension in the family!
Happy Holydays to you and your family!

Has your son ever tried baked salmon and schezuan greenbeans before?

Children should be thankful for what food is put in front of them, as there are millions of children who are starving right now.

Giving children Hotdogs or nuggets everyday is both unhealth and will only result in one fat child.

When myself, and my 2 brothers were kids we were made to eat whatever was served to us for tea.

Lucky for me, I liked everything , but my brothers on the other hand did not. My elder brother in particular, had to sit at the table until everything was eaten, or until it was bedtime. Needless to say, many nights he sat at the table till bedtime, and had not eaten his vegies. Dad then told him it would be waiting there for his breakfast, but he was always at work too early, and Mum would throw it out

I don't give my kids anything i know they don't like/won't eat. And I certainly would not make them eat something they don't like. I mean, what's the point? As adults we don't eat something if we don't like it, or don't like the look of it.

You did right Stacy, stick to your guns, they're your kids, and you have the right to do whatever you think is in their best interests.

Meal time should be pleasant, not a time for arguments.

I think nonna should mind her own business and let you feed whatever you want to your kid It seems like she's just being too stubborn.

Kids can be picky eaters and that could be a problem sometimes.
Nonna is an italian word for grandma.
And culture has a lot of influence over food and authority, if you know what i mean.
You are the mother so you have every right to your child and feed them as you please.

I was raised with no choice but to eat whatever was served on the table.
And everytime, i visit my mom's place i still eat the food that she serves.

Maybe nonna resented the manner or approach that you did
so maybe, you can make peace with her and explain and tell her your side too in a calm way.
after all, grandmas dont live long (and so do we too)
...and you will be a grandma someday.
Life is short.
...too short to get wrinkles!
so don't get that wrinkles, nursey!

Merry Christmas to you and your family!

I think maybe it was my approach, because she said, "Are you fixing him something else?" and I said "I wouldn't eat that, and I'm not going to make him eat it"

That was when she Frisbee tossed the plate of food she had fixed him into the sink. Even my husband and father in law feel that my MIL is over reacting and FYI we're about to go on Day 6 of the silent treatment. She talks to everyone else just not me.

Hubby said I should consider it a blessing...lol...but I'm one of those weird people who really do like my in laws...lol

Kids can be TERRIBLY picky eaters...

My husband and I always try to put something (just one thing out of the whole meal) that our son hasn't tried before and all we ask is that he tries just one bite. If he doesn't like it, we don't push it, we are just happy that he tried it.

If he DOES like it, than we just try to engrain in his head what it was that he just tried so he knows that he likes it later on when it's on his plate in front of him again. (For some reason, kids tend to forget what it is they did try and liked too if it is not labeled and explain for them. )

So far, this method has worked out well for us. Tyler knows that all we ask for is just one bite, so he has no problem trying something new.

The Italian Story.

I was born and raised to eat everything on my plate and couldn't leave the table until it was all eaten.
Thats the Victorian way I think. It would be child abuse these days.

Then I met my wife and became fat. ?

The Italians think that when you eat everything on your plate, that they should put more on and say eat.
The trick i found is to always leave some on there
and argue with them your not sick

Its a physiological thing.

Italians also think that if your not eating, summating rong.

If you eat a hot chilli and nearly die from it

they say

whats tha matter you?

If you say the chilli was HOT

they say

thatsa no hot one

here you trya thisa one

thisa one she's a hota one.

If you look skinny

they say whatstha matter U

U looka too skinny

hatza no good

you cumina sick you no eat

here must be eat summa ting

no gooda you looka too skinny, same as the dog in the street

You cant argue with Italians because they are always right.
There's no such thing as a 4 door masserati ..

Even though their wine tatste like petrol
They say its goods stuff why buy the stuff in the shop too spensive anyway
pincha your money
me maka myself cummina good

and you always go home with a bottle of coke full of tha gooda stuff

Then when you later that night go to the fridge at 1am to quench your thirst
from all the hot chilli's
and grab the coke bottle and scoff down a few mouth fulls
only to discover that its the freaking jet fuel

Looking in an italian fridge
nothing is what it appears to be
Jet fuel in the coke bottle.
beans in the butter tub
olives in the jam jar
all sort of crumpled non descript bags of god knows whatever

hot chillis in the cold chillis and vice versa

Dont you love it when a nice plate of BBQ capsicums are served
and you ask are there any hot ones in there?

They say no, no htta ones

so you tuck in and guess what

A freaking fire ball from hell erupts in your mouth

I thought you said not hot ones?

Oh sorry musta mixem up hotta one there

Here hotta one here
you want?

Your post made me laugh megaplex..............I spent four years in my early 20's with an 'Italian boy'.

They sure do like you to eat

But I learned to love italian food.......proscuitto, salami, olives....all sorts of food I had never eaten before....and most of it was grown in the backyard, or hanging in the garage, or killed by the backyard butcher.....bottles and bottles of tomato sauce, and homemade vino, all in beer bottles.

Never could take to that vino though

This post has been edited by aussiefox: Dec 22 2006, 08:56 PM

Ah Mega,

Qui Grosso. Carmon mangari, donna be shy.

Pete

Mega you are killing me with this one

And all what you said is totaly true, but more for the south of Italy I would say


Something close to the "MY big fat greek wedding" movie

Oh you havent heard tha,

We Maka Da Wine, you Bringa Da Truck Story,
or the
We Killa Tha Pig, maka salami, sos sidge and soap story.

i was brought up with 'eat it or get nothing' mentality. But thats probably because i was brought up in england and apparently we're all old fashioned over here lol..

seems like you have the typical mother in law......... unlucks

hahaha at the Italian Story...lol....yes my MIL has italian in her and what is it with all the TOmatos....Is that all they eat...Tomatos in everything...canned, stewed, boiled, broiled, baked, Good god! Tomatos in everything!!! YUCK!!

And she and I have had this fight before...not with the silent treatment but with a big discussion about how she will only fix one thing for dinner. So in my opinion fix something everyone will eat.

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