If you think your partner is faking it between the sheets, then she probably thinks you’re going to cheat.
Women who are wary of their partner’s fidelity are most likely to fake an orgasm, reports a recent study in Archives and Sexual Behavior. Researchers at Columbia University collected information on women’s relationship and sexual behaviors—including whether or not they have faked an orgasm—and found that nearly 54 percent of the women claimed that they have faked climax during sex.
To fake or not to fake?
Women who were concerned about their partner being unfaithful and wanted to prevent them from leaving the relationship were most likely to fake orgasms, says lead study author Farnaz Kaighobadi, a postdoctoral research fellow at Columbia University.
But she doesn’t just put on a show to keep you from bolting. Research points to a few more reasons why she imitates the “big O.”
Faking an orgasm can be a woman’s way of covering up her own insecurities in the bedroom, Temple University researchers say. Some women said that faking it was their way of feeling less pressured by their performance. So how can you make her feel more confident? Start by telling her how sexy you think she is, suggests Jennifer Landa, M.D., Chief Medical Officer of BodyLogicMD and author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women. “By making her feel more comfortable with herself and expressing your fantasies, she’ll feel more comfortable with expressing herself sexually,” Landa says.
She Wants Foreplay
In a recent study, Indiana researchers found that nearly half of the women surveyed claimed to have faked it during their last sexual encounter. Blame their fibs on a lack of fondling: Foreplay is important because it has the ability to improve sexual functioning and satisfaction, explains Erin B. Cooper, M.A., a doctoral student in clinical psychology at Temple. So before you get down to business, make some time to ignite her fire. Try this: “Stimulate the breasts, not just the nipples,” explains Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., research scientist at Indiana University and author of Because It Feels Good. “Zeroing in can be uncomfortable for a lot of women.” Use the whole hand to touch or massage the entire breast, focusing on the outsides and seeing how the woman responds, she says. “If she enjoys breast touching, then you can often proceed to touching or licking the nipples.”