"Make More Money", " Lose Weight", "Be Nicer to Other People", "
Spend More Time With My Family", " Eat More Healthily", 'Start a
Business " etc...
It is a brand new year again and a time when many people see as a
fresh start to set New Years Resolutions. Have you wondered how
many people actually work on, let alone achieve their resolutions?
I can tell you that more than 90% of people never achieve their goals and make the changes they want in their life. So, if you have experienced this in the past, you are not alone.
So, why do so many people fail at keeping their resolutions,
achieve their goals and make the changes they want in life? Here
are three main reasons:
Reason #1: Vague, Unspecific Goals
Solution: Get Clear on What You Want
The goals people set are often vague and non-specific. They set
goals like ' to lose weight' or 'to make more money'. When you are
vague, you will never get what you want. It is often said that
CLARITY IS POWER. You need to set specific, measurable outcomes so
your mind knows exactly what to do and what needs to be done to get
For example, set goals like 'to lose 10kg in 90 days and to weigh
exactly 48 kg'. When you are specific, you can then develop a plan
on how many calories to consume a meal and how many hours you need
to work out on a treadmill to burn 'X' calories per day.
When you set a clear goal like 'to increase my income from
$4,000month to $$10,000 a month in 5 months. You are clear that you
have to build an extra income stream (s) of $6,000. You can
possible develop a plan to earn an extra $2,000 from Internet
marketing/ads from blogs, another $2,000 from trading FOREX and
another $2,000 from doing part-time commissioned sales/tuition.
Reason #2: Lack of Consistent Focus
Solution: Focus on What You Want Daily
The second reason many people don't get what they want is because
they write a goal down, put it aside and forget about it until a
year later. In the meantime, they get distracted and caught up with
the daily struggles and demands of life.
What has really helped me is that I write my goals down on large
pieces of Poster sized paper and stick it near my workstation, in
my bedroom and in my office. I even design my goals onto my
computer desktop wallpaper. This way, the goals are constantly IN
MY FACE and ON MY MIND 18 hours a day. This makes me constantly
remind myself to move towards my goals and to act in a way which I
Reason #3: Interest But Not a Commitment
Solution: Make a Public Commitment
Let's face it. Many of us think of goals we would LIKE to achieve.
We think it will be NICE to have. However, often times, it is not a
strong COMMITMENT to MUST do it. As human beings, we are also great
at breaking promises to ourselves and we start to justify. "I know
I said I would lose weight but it's just too difficult so
never mind, Nobody will know anyway' is the common thought.
If you want to make things happen in your life, you have to make
goals a COMMITMENT by putting yourself on the line. Make it very
hard for you to turn back. What I often do is when I set a goal
(e.g. recently I set a goal of writing a book 'Secrets of
Successful Teens', I make a PUBLIC COMMITMENT by announcing it to
my friends,family, facebook, BLOG and pretty much everyone I meet.
When you keep talking and announcing what you must do and change,
your brain will give you no choice but to do it. This is a tough
thing to do, but IT WORKS.
Reason #4: Lack of Personal Power
Solution: Take Charge of Your Mind and Tale Action
The last thing that stops people from success is that they do not
take action. They don't use their personal power to get the results
they want. What stops them from taking action are things like FEAR,
PROCRASTINATION, SELF-DOUBT, LAZINESS etc...
You have to understand that you are in control of your own thoughts
and emotions, Using techniques like NLP, you can learn how to
control your mind and direct your focus to motivate yourself and
break through negative habits and behavioral patterns. You have to
learn NLP to develop focus and drive yourself to take massive
action to get the results you want.